In George's opinion the basis of family values is the approach chosen by parents to their children's upbringing. It can be either conservative (strict) or progressive (nurturant). The most videly spread approach is conservative as it was imposed by politicians. That is the reason of different prejudices in our times, e.g. poor people are poor because they have deserved it. Strict approach stands for physical punishment and I consider it wrong. Children should be raised not in fear and pain. We should respect them so that they could learn respect. We should trust them ourselves so that they could learn responsibility. That is the progressive approach. In my family, I think the approach is the latter one. I don't remember any physical punishments in my childhood, I was always trusted to do my homework by myself and to be thoughtful about my doings. I think the result is good enough to trust this approach. (Lunacharska)
Family values are a little like family vacations -— subject to changeable weather and remembered more fondly with the passage of time. Though it rained all week at the beach, it’s often the momentary rainbows that we remember. The family values are traditionally the foundation for how children learn, grow and function in the world. Every family values definition consists of ideas passed down from generation to generation. It boils down to the philosophy of how you want to live your family life. Three traditional basic tasks in life have been described as work, play and love. There are many activities that fall under these categories that define our values. All of them are important and it takes work to balance these tasks. However, we often get caught up in work and other activities and neglect play and love. Often times we work hard because we are invested in our career goals, material things and financial rewards. Yet without a balanced life of incorporating play and having loving relationships, our lives become stressful, overwhelming and unsatisfying. Traditionally people define their values as stating that the family comes first, yet they find themselves with very little time or energy left over for spending time with the family.
George Lakoff considers that the family values are based on the method which parents choose when they bring up their children. There are two types – conservative and progressive (the other names-strict and nurturant). He is a supporter of the conservative method. George Lakoff thinks that it will be better for children, because they will be ready to their real future life. So children will not be afraid of cruelty, evil and disorder with which they can come to close quarters. Three components that lead to happy life are discipline, prosperity and morality. I can’t say that I don’t agree generally, because he is right in some conclusions. I think that punishment should be moral not physical, cause each child has to understand the guilt that he behaved badly before. Parents should explain this situation to their child. And the next time he will do another way. The act of violence doesn’t help anyway only does a lot of harm. I think that family is a unit; all members of the family should respect and help each other. Of course, trust is the most important thing on which family is formed. The family is one of nature's masterpieces (Santayana).
George Lakoff thinks that the family values take their origin from political views. They're have some common features but can be devided into strict (concervative) and nurturant (progressive) parenting programs. Parents should make a choice of child-rearing, if it can be strict rather parenting or nurturant: - In conservative system parents should protect family from outworld and raise their children whether it can be necessity in punishing to form child's morality in good way and discipline them. Distinctive features morality, prosperity and discipline. - Progressive system considers the method of reward and punishement.It also implies Nurturance. Distinctive features are empathy and responsibility of parents. I definitely maintain nurturant type of parenting because I believe that children deserve good treatment and showing them right way of nurturing without any cruelty. Where there's a violence, there can not be no parenting. As to me, I define a family as one single cell. Each should be respectful, helpful and fond of each other. Family should stick together, trust and live to benefits of their own.
George Lakoff thinks that family values and politics are very closely related.And parenting programs can be divided into strict and nurturant(concervative and progressive). The “nurturant” model,stresses the importance of empathy and nurturance.. In this model, the obedience of children comes out of their love and respect for their parents not out of the fear of punishment. "Strict father"-in this model, strongly factor is reward and punishment, and this person will pursue selfish interests to gain rewards or avoid punishment. I am a supporter of the conservative method. I think that the task of parents is primarily to nurture and care for their children and not punish In my family we are all respectful,helpful and kind to each other. I don't have any punishments in my childhood. And I think the result of my upbringing is good.
George Lakoff thinks that in a family all depends on the correct approach of parents to children. But the majority of it doesn't understand and consequently there are conflicts in a family. The overall objective of this approach is understanding, respect, trust. I think that the main family value is that time which we spend together with a family. And relations in a family should be based on love and mutual understanding. As to personally me that I have very united family. My parents not always agree with I say or do, but they listen to mine opinion and give to my the advice.
My name is Alexandra Yakubova. My family is neither large nor smoll. I have a mother, a father and a brother. We all live together in a two-room flat in Simferopol. My father works as an engineer and my brother too. My mother is good houswife.She has always a lot of work to do about the house. And we all help her.My family is very united. We love and we understand each other very much. Also we help each other. We have no conflicts. And we like to spend time together. We like to travel together. We are happy when we are together.
In the beginning of the interview it is said that family values depend on political views. George Lakoff divides two ways into conservative and nurturant; conservative and progressive. He says that James Dobson has a worst book on upbringing children, but is the most influential. In Dobson’s book it is said that strict father has to protect family from evil. Children are born bad and they are need to be good. The only way to make them good is to punish them psychologically or physically. Punishment must be painful. This painful punishment can make an internal discipline that leads to a world. Conservatism means discipline, morality and prosperity: if you are not prosperous - you are not disciplined if you are indiscipline – you deserve poverty. This theory is wrong but 10 thousands of children all over the country are raised this way. This way is detrimental for attachment and socialization. This authoritarian way is a disaster and thus children are unsure in themselves, less functional and more aggressive. Progressive model means reward and punishment system. You have to praise children. George named this system as nurturant (careful). Nurturant model means that you care about your children as you take care of yourselves and you teach them how to take care about other people and to be respectful. Nurturance means to be strong as a parent, to respect your children and you have to interact with them, to be honest, open with them and to set limits. Limits don’t mean punishment, they mean that parents make children want to help them. All the pediatricians advise this way of upbringing. Economic situations influences on family and adults work longer and their children are raised next to the TVsets. Family health depends on politics, religion and family life is important to all aspects of life. But politics should stay out of family because it’s crucial. I agree with the progressive method. I think that children should be raised in loving and caring family. So, the relationships in my family are built on trust. My parents brought us up in love and care. If we were punished it wasn’t physical punishment. We always discussed our problems together and try to figure out how to be. Sure, if I had a good behavior my parents praise me with some gifts. When we were children, my brother and I, helped our parents about the house, because we understood that this help could ease their life and teach us how to behave in our future life. When I’m thinking about my future family I’m thinking about different situations which are connected with upbringing children and better life for them. I would like children to be raised much better with every generation.
We are in a 21st century now.And when you are thinking on how should you raise your own kid at first you need to remember,how many things we went through-there were the times when parents were very strict to their kids,and little children were raised with anger and surrounded by fear.The history should teach us and help to chose the right way,the nice way of raising our kids.We live an a developed world now,and even chosing the progressive way of raising kids,there are lots of violence and anger between us.It seems like it shouldn't be like that,but the problem is inside of us-when you raise your child,do it thinking of who you want to see in future and remember that because of all the punishments you use against him/her can come back to you and to other people. Love is the only one thing I will use in my methods of raising my kids,because I want them to be people,not just creatures,I want to be proud of them and to be sure that they won't do anything bad concerning to other people. George Lakoff tells us about the conservative and progressive ways of upbringing kids.He tells us about Henry Dobson and his conservative ways with the "bitting the hell out of the kids" trying to turn them all into good kids.Conservative way is our past,but there are some strong points in there:the high level of morality and discipline,but there more chances to a kid who is raised in a conservative family to be psychologically unbalanced and violent,then for a kid who is raised in a progressive family. I was raised in a family with only one parent,and it made me stronger,because my mother didn't need to explain to me some things of our life,i just understood them and sam them with my eyes.We share a lot of things and for me my family is the most important and the most valuable thing.I don't only respect them,I'm gonna defend and help with any way I could.I want to be like mom and I'm very proud of her being such a strong woman and such a good example for me.And I know for sure what I'm gonna do with my kids:)
Family is small government.Of course any family as any government has it's own laws and orders.It means that parents have their own child-rearing methods.George Lakoff singles out two ways conservative and progressive.To my mind both these methods are good in their's own way.From the one point of view strict fathers have to protect their family from the evil and at the same time to put the children on the right track, teach them to be honest,to have moral principles and norms. As for progressive model involves reword and punishment system it means parents should praise children undoubtedly it is good but not in all cases.May be someone will be disagree with me but I consider that punishment must take place in child-rearing namely physical punishment.
George Lakoff says that family valuea are the part of a social institute . I agree with him on that. It is really important fot society to have strong families in it. What is also true about the families is that nowadays people have to work a lot and it leads to kids being left fot themselves .It's not the parents who raise them it's the TV sets. Which is really sad. My family values are really strong. They are based on what my family gives me and on what is important in my parent's family. To my mind understanding should be one of the most important parts of the family values. Each member of the family has to try to understand the other and not to be agoistic.
George Lakoff thinks that family values depend on political views and he talk about respect ,we all know that the most thing in our families is the respect. My family is small consists my father , my mother , my brother and my sister . i love very much my family and my family love me too because we have two great things in our life are love and respect...
It was quite intresting lecture about family values. I agree with a lecturer in such ways: 1) it is a bad thing - strick father parenting. On the one hand children should have a full family with a father and they should respect their parents, but I am against a physical punishment. We should respect our children and parent's main goal is to raise them happy and clever. We shoud explain kindly them about world around us. We should tell them about good and bad things. 2) Politics and family should comunicate whith each other, because politicians can create different programs that protect family. For example, programmes against drugs, alcohol ets. 3) We shoud create and raise our familys on principles that person should be a strong parent and should respect her child. As for me, I was grown in a friendly and kind family. I respect my parents and my relatives. We support each other in a bad time!
In George's opinion the basis of family values is the approach chosen by parents to their children's upbringing. It can be either conservative (strict) or progressive (nurturant). The most videly spread approach is conservative as it was imposed by politicians. That is the reason of different prejudices in our times, e.g. poor people are poor because they have deserved it.
ОтветитьУдалитьStrict approach stands for physical punishment and I consider it wrong.
Children should be raised not in fear and pain. We should respect them so that they could learn respect. We should trust them ourselves so that they could learn responsibility.
That is the progressive approach.
In my family, I think the approach is the latter one. I don't remember any physical punishments in my childhood, I was always trusted to do my homework by myself and to be thoughtful about my doings. I think the result is good enough to trust this approach.
(Lunacharska)
Family values are a little like family vacations -— subject to changeable weather and remembered more fondly with the passage of time. Though it rained all week at the beach, it’s often the momentary rainbows that we remember.
ОтветитьУдалитьThe family values are traditionally the foundation for how children learn, grow and function in the world. Every family values definition consists of ideas passed down from generation to generation. It boils down to the philosophy of how you want to live your family life. Three traditional basic tasks in life have been described as work, play and love. There are many activities that fall under these categories that define our values. All of them are important and it takes work to balance these tasks. However, we often get caught up in work and other activities and neglect play and love. Often times we work hard because we are invested in our career goals, material things and financial rewards. Yet without a balanced life of incorporating play and having loving relationships, our lives become stressful, overwhelming and unsatisfying. Traditionally people define their values as stating that the family comes first, yet they find themselves with very little time or energy left over for spending time with the family.
George Lakoff considers that the family values are based on the method which parents choose when they bring up their children. There are two types – conservative and progressive (the other names-strict and nurturant). He is a supporter of the conservative method. George Lakoff thinks that it will be better for children, because they will be ready to their real future life. So children will not be afraid of cruelty, evil and disorder with which they can come to close quarters. Three components that lead to happy life are discipline, prosperity and morality.
ОтветитьУдалитьI can’t say that I don’t agree generally, because he is right in some conclusions. I think that punishment should be moral not physical, cause each child has to understand the guilt that he behaved badly before. Parents should explain this situation to their child. And the next time he will do another way. The act of violence doesn’t help anyway only does a lot of harm.
I think that family is a unit; all members of the family should respect and help each other. Of course, trust is the most important thing on which family is formed.
The family is one of nature's masterpieces (Santayana).
George Lakoff thinks that the family values take their origin from political views. They're have some common features but can be devided into strict (concervative) and nurturant (progressive) parenting programs. Parents should make a choice of child-rearing, if it can be strict rather parenting or nurturant:
ОтветитьУдалить- In conservative system parents should protect family from outworld and raise their children whether it can be necessity in punishing to form child's morality in good way and discipline them. Distinctive features morality, prosperity and discipline.
- Progressive system considers the method of reward and punishement.It also implies Nurturance. Distinctive features are empathy and responsibility of parents.
I definitely maintain nurturant type of parenting because I believe that children deserve good treatment and showing them right way of nurturing without any cruelty. Where there's a violence, there can not be no parenting.
As to me, I define a family as one single cell. Each should be respectful, helpful and fond of each other. Family should stick together, trust and live to benefits of their own.
George Lakoff thinks that family values and politics are very closely related.And parenting programs can be divided into strict and nurturant(concervative and progressive).
ОтветитьУдалитьThe “nurturant” model,stresses the importance of empathy and nurturance.. In this model, the obedience of children comes out of their love and respect for their parents not out of the fear of punishment.
"Strict father"-in this model, strongly factor is reward and punishment, and this person will pursue selfish interests to gain rewards or avoid punishment.
I am a supporter of the conservative method. I think that the task of parents is primarily to nurture and care for their children and not punish
In my family we are all respectful,helpful and kind to each other. I don't have any punishments in my childhood. And I think the result of my upbringing is good.
George Lakoff thinks that in a family all depends on the correct approach of parents to children. But the majority of it doesn't understand and consequently there are conflicts in a family. The overall objective of this approach is understanding, respect, trust. I think that the main family value is that time which we spend together with a family. And relations in a family should be based on love and mutual understanding. As to personally me that I have very united family. My parents not always agree with I say or do, but they listen to mine opinion and give to my the advice.
ОтветитьУдалитьMy name is Alexandra Yakubova. My family is neither large nor smoll. I have a mother, a father and a brother. We all live together in a two-room flat in Simferopol. My father works as an engineer and my brother too. My mother is good houswife.She has always a lot of work to do about the house. And we all help her.My family is very united. We love and we understand each other very much. Also we help each other. We have no conflicts. And we like to spend time together. We like to travel together. We are happy when we are together.
ОтветитьУдалитьIn the beginning of the interview it is said that family values depend on political views.
ОтветитьУдалитьGeorge Lakoff divides two ways into conservative and nurturant; conservative and progressive. He says that James Dobson has a worst book on upbringing children, but is the most influential.
In Dobson’s book it is said that strict father has to protect family from evil. Children are born bad and they are need to be good. The only way to make them good is to punish them psychologically or physically. Punishment must be painful. This painful punishment can make an internal discipline that leads to a world.
Conservatism means discipline, morality and prosperity: if you are not prosperous - you are not disciplined if you are indiscipline – you deserve poverty. This theory is wrong but 10 thousands of children all over the country are raised this way.
This way is detrimental for attachment and socialization. This authoritarian way is a disaster and thus children are unsure in themselves, less functional and more aggressive.
Progressive model means reward and punishment system. You have to praise children. George named this system as nurturant (careful).
Nurturant model means that you care about your children as you take care of yourselves and you teach them how to take care about other people and to be respectful.
Nurturance means to be strong as a parent, to respect your children and you have to interact with them, to be honest, open with them and to set limits. Limits don’t mean punishment, they mean that parents make children want to help them.
All the pediatricians advise this way of upbringing.
Economic situations influences on family and adults work longer and their children are raised next to the TVsets.
Family health depends on politics, religion and family life is important to all aspects of life. But politics should stay out of family because it’s crucial.
I agree with the progressive method. I think that children should be raised in loving and caring family.
So, the relationships in my family are built on trust. My parents brought us up in love and care. If we were punished it wasn’t physical punishment. We always discussed our problems together and try to figure out how to be. Sure, if I had a good behavior my parents praise me with some gifts. When we were children, my brother and I, helped our parents about the house, because we understood that this help could ease their life and teach us how to behave in our future life. When I’m thinking about my future family I’m thinking about different situations which are connected with upbringing children and better life for them. I would like children to be raised much better with every generation.
We are in a 21st century now.And when you are thinking on how should you raise your own kid at first you need to remember,how many things we went through-there were the times when parents were very strict to their kids,and little children were raised with anger and surrounded by fear.The history should teach us and help to chose the right way,the nice way of raising our kids.We live an a developed world now,and even chosing the progressive way of raising kids,there are lots of violence and anger between us.It seems like it shouldn't be like that,but the problem is inside of us-when you raise your child,do it thinking of who you want to see in future and remember that because of all the punishments you use against him/her can come back to you and to other people.
ОтветитьУдалитьLove is the only one thing I will use in my methods of raising my kids,because I want them to be people,not just creatures,I want to be proud of them and to be sure that they won't do anything bad concerning to other people.
George Lakoff tells us about the conservative and progressive ways of upbringing kids.He tells us about Henry Dobson and his conservative ways with the "bitting the hell out of the kids" trying to turn them all into good kids.Conservative way is our past,but there are some strong points in there:the high level of morality and discipline,but there more chances to a kid who is raised in a conservative family to be psychologically unbalanced and violent,then for a kid who is raised in a progressive family.
I was raised in a family with only one parent,and it made me stronger,because my mother didn't need to explain to me some things of our life,i just understood them and sam them with my eyes.We share a lot of things and for me my family is the most important and the most valuable thing.I don't only respect them,I'm gonna defend and help with any way I could.I want to be like mom and I'm very proud of her being such a strong woman and such a good example for me.And I know for sure what I'm gonna do with my kids:)
Family is small government.Of course any family as any government has it's own laws and orders.It means that parents have their own child-rearing methods.George Lakoff singles out two ways conservative and progressive.To my mind both these methods are good in their's own way.From the one point of view strict fathers have to protect their family from the evil and at the same time to put the children on the right track, teach them to be honest,to have moral principles and norms.
ОтветитьУдалитьAs for progressive model involves reword and punishment system it means parents should praise children undoubtedly it is good but not in all cases.May be someone will be disagree with me but I consider that punishment must take place in child-rearing namely physical punishment.
George Lakoff says that family valuea are the part of a social institute . I agree with him on that. It is really important fot society to have strong families in it. What is also true about the families is that nowadays people have to work a lot and it leads to kids being left fot themselves .It's not the parents who raise them it's the TV sets. Which is really sad.
ОтветитьУдалитьMy family values are really strong. They are based on what my family gives me and on what is important in my parent's family. To my mind understanding should be one of the most important parts of the family values. Each member of the family has to try to understand the other and not to be agoistic.
George Lakoff thinks that family values depend on political views and he talk about respect ,we all know that the most thing in our families is the respect.
ОтветитьУдалитьMy family is small consists my father , my mother , my brother and my sister . i love very much my family and my family love me too because we have two great things in our life are love and respect...
It was quite intresting lecture about family values. I agree with a lecturer in such ways:
ОтветитьУдалить1) it is a bad thing - strick father parenting. On the one hand children should have a full family with a father and they should respect their parents, but I am against a physical punishment. We should respect our children and parent's main goal is to raise them happy and clever. We shoud explain kindly them about world around us. We should tell them about good and bad things.
2) Politics and family should comunicate whith each other, because politicians can create different programs that protect family. For example, programmes against drugs, alcohol ets.
3) We shoud create and raise our familys on principles that person should be a strong parent and should respect her child.
As for me, I was grown in a friendly and kind family. I respect my parents and my relatives. We support each other in a bad time!